The Good,the Bad, and the Ugly about becoming a Pro-Domme

The Good, the Bad and the Ugly.......advice for those who want to go Pro....

I read this last night and wanted to share it with you all. No I did not write this.

1. One of the first things I suggest to a person that decides that they want to go Pro at anything... is to know WHO you are BEFORE you make that giant leap of faith.

More than just knowing about techniques, implements, safety and the tools that we use. I am talking about knowing who you are as a person. It is always best to analyze yourself from an angle that is from the outside looking in. Know your weaknesses and know your strengths. Do not be fearful of admitting that you do not know everything. Take a look at yourself not only in the mirror for improvements. But on the inside as well.

2. The next step would be to know your market. Do research on your local competition. Find a quality that will help you to stick out from the others, but be true to yourself. There are many but yet there are few.
Learn how and where to market yourself. Have an image in your mind of who you want to present yourself to be (because that is who you are). Do not try to come out as something that you are not. Find the qualities that you feel are the best that you have to offer to your potential clients. In the long run honesty is always best.

3. Expect that there will be costs. Marketing and advertising is not cheap. So be ready to come out as clear and if you can, in as many areas as possible. Budget costs according to what you can afford.

4. Men are visual creatures. So take the time to seek out professional pictures as well as outfits that compliment your unique style. Again, more costs but it is worth the effort. If you cannot afford professional pictures then seek out a photographer either that you know, or one that will be willing to shoot you to expand his/her portfolio.

5. Being a Pro Domme is not what is all cracked up to be. If your one and only intent to start is for the money only... then expect some disappointment. There can be dry spells that last for days, weeks, and sometimes months. Not to mention that there is always a fresh 'face' ready behind you to take your place. Being a pro can be the most fulfilling yet difficult career to do. Expect frustration. Expect that it will not always be easy.

6.  Be prepared to work and to work hard. For those that are pros and have been established for a while... they are the ones on vacations soaking up the sun. The first few years may be the toughest. But depending on your determination, skills, resources and effort, you may just make it. But understand that nothing will be handed to you... (At least not initially lol)

7. Speaking of hard work. I feel that the hardest part of what I do is not the physical acts of the scenes. It is the constant communication that you will have to do in order to get a client to actually commit. Everyone has their own ways of doing things. Find what way works best for you. But expect that you are going to come across all walks of life. You will get the most fucked up of requests. You will want to scream sometimes. You will get emotional and frustrated. But remember that your actions determine your reputation.

8. Know the laws in your area! If you find a dungeon that is reasonable to rent, that is even better. Get a lawyer if you feel necessary. I have a kink friendly lawyer on my damn speed dial lol.

9. Keep your personal life separate from your business. In my opinion, if you have children, elders that you care for or any family members that are close keep them out of a client’s way. I personality feel that the less a person knows about your personal life (especially when it comes to children) the better. If you choose to involve clients with your household and in other ways, do so at your own risk.

10. If at all possible, find another pro that is willing to Mentor you. It can be a cut throat business, but there are some that may be willing to take a newbie under them. If not then study. Get involved as much as possible if you are not already in your local scene. Learn Learn Learn.

11. Approach it as a business. Prepare for it from a business perspective. Sit down and make a list of the things you will need. Have a clear plan on what you want your application to cover. What your rules will be, if you will have a deposit requirement, how you will get the deposit etc etc. If you choose to have a website created look around at others. Find some things you like but make it tailored to your own personality. Websites can cost a bit so budget for that unless you decide create one yourself.

12. Do not expect to hit the ground running. Set goals but understand that you have to start somewhere. Sometimes where you start is not the best or where you envision yourself to be. But if you are TRULY in it with passion for it, you will conquer and succeed.

Well put, I must say
Writen by : Veronica_deVille

Domina Amy